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First important step of Confidence: Being Assertive

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In the earlier blog, we've understood, What is Confidence? but here we'll be learning it step-by-step that how and where to use it in the corporate world to fight for your right.
Imagine you've studied extremely hard and because of this, you got good marks too. You've always dreamt of becoming an Architect, so after finishing up your Architecture from one of the top-notch university, you are going to start your career by getting a job for getting the practical exposure but on the very first day of your job & it happens, that you tend to feel a bit shaky and nervous.
So, now the questions arises that, Are you a kind of person who hold yourself from taking initiatives and grabbing opportunities? It's quite usual, that it's the first time you are meeting all new Individuals but if you think it in terms of being an opportunist, this is the time where you can create that solid impression.
let's understand in detail:
there are some common mistakes that we must look forward:
  • What if i say something wrong?
  • What will people think?
  • What if people won't listen?
  • What, if they ignore?
blah...blah....blah....
All in all, in this stage, you are doubting your own abilities which you must not do. You are hired in that organization only because you are capable enough to manage the tasks being assigned. So, first of all, remove that doubt inside you because self-doubt is the hurdle which is stopping you from excelling in your job.
There can be some unseen circumstances might arrive during the start of your professional career and because of your hesitant natures, people might take undue advantage. Suppose, you have to prepare a presentation in front of your domain employees & you feel all shaky & nervous. In this case, you obviously end up being in a mess and it could certainly harm your chance to impress others and could also affect your personality both mentally and physically.
That's why, to overcome all this dizziness & fear of loosing or doubting on your own, you must follow 3 simple techniques:
Don't over scan yourself:
While in case of self-doubt, it's highly unlikely that you might end up ruining your moment. It's best to not think too much and most importantly, believe in yourself & your abilities & try to keep it; simple and straightforward. Rather you should start complementing yourself about the past positive moments which you've had in the past. This will surely get that nervous energy out of you and filled you up with courage to share ideas & opinions which in turn, will give you the place you deserve and you could easily overcome your self-doubt.
Mistakes are the best friend:
There's a say: 'Always learn from mistakes and put your best foot forward'. So, in case of being in doubt, the mistakes are bound to happen because there's always that fear of failure associated with it. Concentrate on present, it's not like; all the world's top entrepreneur or top earning employees didn't commit mistakes in their lives. In-fact, through mistakes only they could able to move the career ladder one step at a time.
So, we should make our mindset so strong that even if mistakes do happen, we should not get confined by that, rather we should learn not to repeat it and keep marching forward because Mistakes happens in past and nobody on this earth, have the capability to change past but yes with a positive present and mindset, one won't commit it again in the future.
Overcome your inferiority:
This scenario is not about self-doubt, its about being bobbed down because of senior colleagues or management or boss but it could surely lead to doubt as you stop rewarding yourselves and start thinking about being inferior. As, the people who are senior to you, have an upper hand because they have the authority but it must not affect our mindset and lastly, impact will be seen in performance.
So, its better to give respect which they deserve & stop being inferior further because they also carry certain skill-set and you also carry yours. Best proverb: 'No one can make you feel inferior without your consent'.

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